For most of us, our expectations about what life will bring us are formed in childhood. If you show up in youth sports, you get a trophy. If you pick the correct multiple-choice questions, you will get a good grade. If you behave in a particular way, you will get the desired result. Well-meaning adults unconsciously fill children with these thoughts throughout their lives.
To paraphrase TV psychologist Dr. Phil: “how’s that working for you?”
The truth is no one is guaranteed anything in life. Just because you “desire something” doesn’t mean you are “entitled” to have it regardless of the how often this idea is reinforced.
Does this prepare you for the inevitable rejection you will encounter in life?
Holding on to conditioned responses will be like having an invisible anchor around your neck. Your view will be skewed unknowingly affecting your performance.
We can only put forth the best work we can do at the time. We...
Most of us got into music because on a deep love for making music. We loved doing it so the next logical step would be to figure out how to make a living doing it. As a result, we attempt to move from the ranks of the amateur to the professional.
The inherent rub in this transformation comes when art meets commerce. We are conditioned to believe that the creation of art is a mysterious endeavor...a noble pastime that does not need to be concerned with mundane obligations like paying your rent on time or having enough money to buy groceries. Accepting this idea as fact traditionally breeds internal conflict. But does it have to?
Art and commerce are not mutually exclusive though maintaining a balance as a creative professional is difficult to do.
How do we find that magical middle ground?
Our pain comes from trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. By that, I suggest that we can imbue anything with artistic intent regardless of the circumstance. It all depends on how we...
Being a creative work for hire individual is challenging.
There are no rules.
It’s hard to know where to turn for advice.
And, if you are anything like I was when I was young, chances are you are always looking for acknowledgment and acceptance.
It is natural to think you have to look outside yourself to find the answers. We are trained to research and assimilate information to improve ourselves.
But what if the answer was already inside you? What if you had to no look no further than yourself?
A byproduct of our educational experience is the pressure to conform. To be able to measure progress schools are required to judge against a norm.
Unfortunately, conformity stifles creative solutions depriving us of the freedom to explore solutions that are unique to us. Schools do a terrible job at teaching students to think for themselves, to connect the dots in ways that are unique to us.
Most of us are starting life at a disadvantage. Most times we don’t know it!